I found a very good post about "the black man dating white woman" issue. I did not write this!! But I do side with her explanation and this is definitely some food your thoughts ladies and gents. You can find the original post here written by Shanice ;)
It’s a very sensitive subject matter for people. Some people (usually black women) get very aggressive when they see a black man with any woman that doesn’t appear to be full black. Everyone else doesn’t see the issue. Let’s be real for a moment, THERE IS NO ISSUE!!!
We are all allowed to fall in love with anyone of our choice. Majority of the time, we don’t see skin color when we are spending time with our friends/lovers. So there should not be an issue if I see a black man getting all cozy with a Southeast Asian girl or a White girl or a Hispanic girl. I don’t mind. As unrealistic as this may sound, if I can’t be in a relationship with a good man, I don’t see the point of knocking them down because they are happy and have what I want. It just makes me seem like I’m “jealous”, “hating” or “bitter”. It’s a waste of emotions for me to get upset about it.But why are other black women mad? Understand it like this, if all the visible “good men” that you were attracted to weren’t even in the slightest way attracted to not only you or other “good” black women, you would be upset too. The concept of well, all the good men are taken effects a lot of women all of the time. As a black woman, I can only speak on me because out of all the black men I ever talked to, only a few were considered to be “good”. Sometimes it’s not about the men you choose, but it’s about the men that are available and are interested in building a relationship with you. Haven’t you noticed that the “no good” black men want the “good” black women that long to be with the “good” black man? That seems to happen to me all the time, lol. I always seem to attract black guys that I would define as not good (didn’t finish high school, drug deal, don’t want to commit, always hitting me up for money, etc.).
My longest relationship so far has been with a man that wasn’t black. To my knowledge, no one seemed to care about a “good” black women dating a white guy. It usually doesn’t work that way. People don’t care much about certain things that involve black women. Unfortunately, life has been that way for years. Black women in this country are usually the forgotten ones. I won’t even discuss how skin color plays a part in this because that is a post for another time.
While I am attracted to black men, I don’t have racial (or even cultural) preferences for my future Mr.Right. This is why I stand on the side of people that do not see a problem with black men choosing to date outside of the black race. However, I completely understand the emotions from black women and I can sometimes stand on that side too. I guess my only advice is that we should just take the time to focus on ourselves instead of focusing on others.